Sunday, November 29, 2009

Looking for Love Online During the Holidays

By Anne Patrick

It is time for the holiday festivities to begin. If you are unattached, you may be thinking and wondering who you will be spending your time with this season. Some may turn to online dating as a way to jump start finding a special love interest. Others may say that a couple of months are too short in time for getting to know someone, and then inviting them to the company holiday party. You can really get a good idea of what a person is like when spending your time with them through out the holidays.

How the Holidays Can Help You Learn

Are Kids a Priority? - A child's excitement around the holidays adds to enjoyment. How will your dating partner act around children? This often indicates whether the person likes children and is willing to interact with them.

Family & Friend Interaction- How will they act around the loved ones currently in your life if you take them along to a gathering? Will they interact with your family and friends or not participate in discussions or make small talk? If they are uncomfortable with those close to you, that should raise a red flag. Are they possessive? Or overly shy?

Can You Count On Them? - We all know how much time can be spent preparing for a party, especially for areas like the menu. You may be purchasing a special outfit just for the night or have to hire a sitter. Can you count on the person who is supposed to go with you to show up and in a timely manner? Is there attire fit for the occasion? You don't want a love interest who you cannot depend on.

Alcohol & Drugs - Enjoying a few cocktails aside, but they may be using the holidays as an excuse - You don't want to spend the holidays dealing with an addict, much less your life!

The Joy of Giving - You may have only known this person a few months, how would you feel exchanging gifts? Will you discuss this prior to Christmas? For the record, if you've been finding joy in the person's company, a small gift should be given in the spirit of the season.. Which brings us to our next point...

Spending During a Recession - There is currently a recession, and the holidays are not going to make that go away. Nevertheless, people still want to enjoy the holidays, but will scale back spending on celebrations. Will your partner be ok without splurging?? Are they empathetic to others? Maybe you volunteer your time at a shelter or kitchen - would they help out??

Be Realistic

Bear in mind that these ARE the holidays, a time of added stress. Truthfully, the holidays can be downright depressing. Your companion could have a lot on their plate. So don't be depending your partner to keep you happy and joyful all season.

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