Sunday, November 29, 2009

Some Useful Information to Make Your Relationship Work

By Hans S Delane

Modern living style has its own share of problems; with things coming to us from all directions it is hard to keep relationships strong. If you desire to save your relationship, finding time to work on it can be even more challenging. The article offers few advices on love to save your relationship; it will prove to be a big help to extremely stressed people who still want to make their relationships work.

Mentioned below are three points which you can follow immediately to keep your relationship strong, or pull it back from the verge of breaking. Quality of time rather than the quantity of time that you spend together is an important factor to keep things going. Keep this in mind while you read the points below.

1.Most importantly work out the activities that you enjoy doing as a couple. It can be anything that you enjoy together, whether a round of golf or going to the local movie theater. When you decide to spend some quality time as a couple, make arrangements for your kids, they can spend the night with their grandmother. Also remember this is no time for receiving your calls or watching television so switch off your cell phones and blackberries. This is some valuable time to connect with each other and not just coexist.

It is vital for two reasons. First it will provide you the much needed time to rest and take a break from the stresses of daily life. This will not only help you individually but also permit both of you to contribute more to the relationship since you will be relaxed and comfortable. Secondly, it will give you valuable memories that you can relive and share with each other. It is always exciting to have shared experiences where you can say 'remember when we did...'? This will also build a stronger bond between the two of you.

2. It is usually observed that many couples just talk about routine chores like did you pick the milk on your way home or how was your day. Strive to find some valuable time every week where you can talk, let it not be a complaining time but just talk. Turn this into a constructive time where you can share your dream with your partner or revive some good memories. Be keen to talk and listen tolerantly; open your minds for each other and share your thoughts.

3. Hark back constantly to remind yourself what it was that initially attracted you to your partner. Do not allow yourself to forget whether it was their laugh, their interesting sense of humor or their expressions that attracted you the most. While you remember it yourself, ensure that you let your spouse also know about it. If it was their laugh that made you fall in love, express generously that you like the way they laugh. Your continued positive expressions will strengthen the bond that you share with your partner. Everyone seeks love and admiration; it would be shameful if you ever let your partner sense that you don't find that thing you fell in love with, no more attractive.

You will find people telling you that relationships are 'hard' and they 'take a lot of work'. Here I totally disagree and strongly believe that if you are with the right person, if you both are mature adults and robustly willing to make your relationship work then it can be a cake walk for you. Remember that a loving relationship is one of the best things that you can do for yourself.

To sum: work out every week to do things together that you enjoy and try not to neglect it. Make a point to appreciate your partner and talk about more meaningful and important things than just your daily chores. Use these tips as initial steps to save your relationship.

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