Saturday, January 30, 2010

Is There Any Way For Me To Cope - How to Deal With Break Up Pain

By Kim Sanchez

No matter what I say or write in this article, there is no way that I can console you. There is no word that I can write here that will give you complete comfort or ease away the pain of break up. Nevertheless, you have to realize that the pain is not permanent. You can get over the pain in time.

First of all, you gotta have a positive attitude. This is something that is easier said than done, but just think of the alternative - self pity and emotional distress. That's not the proper way to cope during a break up. Self-pity and emotional distress will only make you spiral down into depression or worse. Realize that your happiness is not dependent on one person. You can make your own happiness.

During the early stages of the break up it is wise to re-connect with your friends and family. You may have neglected them during your intense relationship with this person, but now is a great time to see what your friends and family are up to.

You will get the best support group in the world in the form of your friends and family. When you share your pains with them, it will somehow ease your burden. They may in turn share their experiences with you, and believe me, that is therapeutic and healing.

When you are already having suicidal thoughts and deep into depression, I suggest that you consult a professional - may it be a psychiatrist/psychologist or a counselor. They can help you see things in a different perspective. You should deal with suicidal thoughts at once because this is very serious.

There is still hope as long as you breathe. Always remember that. No matter how much pain you are experiencing today, the pain will heal in due time. Live life and love life as a single. If you want to attract people or your ex back, you should imbibe a positive attitude and not be clingy or desperate.

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