Wednesday, January 13, 2010

How To Get Your Ex Back

By Adrian Logan

If you are feeling confused and heart broken, I have some message for you.

Almost every broken relationship can be saved and repaired. You may think it is not possible but the fact is that regardless whether is it plain old lost passion, loss of interest, a stolen heart, infidelity, or even men serving long setences in jail have managed to save their broken relationships. Yes, even ex-prisoners managed to get back with their wives or girlfriends after being locked up for so long!

There is hope for you.

Now I can almost see you shaking your head in disbelief. It's okay. Let me ask you a question.

Do you know any couples that have gotten back together? Do you know a girl that has taken a guy back or vice versa?

I am sure you have and I notice something unusual. Can you recall the reason for the break up initially? I sure you have heard before cases whereby the gal or guy forgive their ex after an affair and get back together.

Pause and think for a moment.

Sure! And I bet you know of or have heard of at least one girl that has taken a guy back that really should not have. I am talking about girls or guys that are in verbally or physically abusive relationships.

Now, that is some really dark stuff and I am not recommending to anyone to take someone back if the relationship was abusive. I am using it as a point that almost no situation is unsalvageable. Couples reunite every day regardless of the situation!

Honestly speaking, this is not logical. If even under terrible situation where couples manage to get back together, it looks like there is some special secret available that can recapture lost love and reignite the passion.

Now I am not suggesting they were holding some "secret love spell" guide and doing black magic. Not at all but at the same time somehow, by mostly accident they said and did the correct things at the correct time and won back the heart of their lover or at least created the chance where their ex gave them another opportunity.

Allow me to emphasize. Very likely, they did those things by accident!

Imagine if what they said and what they did could be pinpoint down to a precise formula, and then you could just take and use it to erase old hurts, reignite old passion again, and turn back to a time when your relationship was new, fresh and exciting.

Yes. There is such recipe to getting back your ex. There is a "recipe for love" as well as a recipe for winning back and keeping some ones interest, desire, passion, heart and love.

What they did by "accident" can be repeated over and over intentionally! If I were you I would be somewhat skeptical right now. That's totally fine.

Are these symptoms familiar to you?

-leaving the radio off because every song makes you cry -no appetite -binge eating for comfort -calling your ex many times a day -text messaging and emailing constantly (text message terrorism) -keep checking your email and voice mail to see if your ex called -staying at home because you are worried to miss a call -thinking constantly about why they really left you -feeling extreme sadness -feeling urges to spy on them -endlessly rehearsing what you should have said -endlessly thinking what you will say if you bump into them

And when you do reach them, it usually turns ugly because you do not have a clear plan of what you are supposed to do. Defensiveness, panic and arguments will happen and then things get really out of hand.

Do you make these mistakes with your ex?

-we try to tell them we are the love of their life -we will apologize profusely for every single thing -commit to turn over a new leaf -try to get them to see that it wasn't really our mistake -even beg with them to take us back

And of course with every word we utter, regardless of our intention, the more defensive, angry and distant they become.

This isn't your fault. School did not teach you how. You probably weren't taught this by your parents and there is no "how to get your ex back" night school. And it is really a pity too because what could have a higher priority than love?

So what you should do? There are many good resources online to teach you the exact formula on how to win back your ex love heart.

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