Saturday, December 19, 2009

Common Mistakes in Online Dating

By Janine Hanson

There's no big difference between meeting and dating someone offline and meeting and dating some online. Before you can have a good date as it should be, both have same course. In online dating, you should first have to communicate with the person by email or by telephone chat before you decide to meet them in person. Once you have met the person, it could lead to a second date or not. Not much different when meeting a person offline. If you want to have a tremendous date in online dating, these are the common deal breakers that you should avoid to make things work out well:

#1: Being serious too soon Even if you met a person online and had conversation or still having by email, chatting and talking over the phone, it does not mean that both of you are bound to be together as husband and wife. Even if both of you decided to meet in person, you should never assume that you are meant to be. That is too pathetic. You should get a hold of yourself whether it is offline dating or online dating. And you must keep that in mind. Too much expectation will only lead to a melancholic romance life and a broken heart. You should be just friends first to know each other well, and in time this might get into a good serious relationship. Give and have time to grow before you indulge into a commitment especially if you are looking for a long term partner.

#2: Bringing up divisive pr provoking issues on the very first date You should never bring up divisive or controversial issues on your very first date or when you just met her online or at a certain party. Divisive issues like religions, beliefs, politics views, and other personal stuffs might easily upset a woman. If you are already in a relationship, then that is the appropriate time to discuss some divisive issues. But for now, do not confront her about this kind of subjects.

Deal Breaker #3: Cynical person Cynical person is certainly a turn off. The usual mistake men do is talking about their past relationship, like talking about their ex wife or ex girlfriend, saying harsh about the experience and being nostalgic about what happened while you are trying to be on a date. It is not advisable to force yourself doing this kind of dating if you are still not over on your past relationship. It might upset the other person and might lose her interest. You should stop thinking about the past first and if you are ready for a new relationship, then that is the time to meet new individuals.

#4:Giving out too much personal details Be cautious in giving out too many personal details about you. This might get you into a big trouble. Keep in mind that you are talking to a stranger, even if you are comfortable talking to them, you still cannot assure your safety and protection with them. Therefore, do not easily share your address or landline number, keep it private. Too much trust to a person you have just met is really a mistake. This might end up to a tragic scene.

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