Friday, December 25, 2009

How to Get your Ex Back Fast

By T Dub Jackson

Do you know what to do to get your ex back? Sometimes, no matter how hard you try just to get your ex back in your arms, things don't happen the way you want it. The least we expect always prevails.

But, what is the best? The best ways to get an ex back fast are not always as simple or cut and dried as they might appear. Sometimes the real strength lies in the ability to be subtle and the willingness to manipulate the situation to your favor. It sounds a little sneaky and possibly a little underhanded but all is fair in love and war, correct? You'll have to decide for yourself where you want to draw the line and what your comfort zone will allow. While mind games in most relationships are no fun when the relationship is over with, what do you have to lose? More importantly, getting into the head of your ex is the best-best way to get an ex back fast.

Putting yourself in your ex's shoes doesn't mean you have to wear his or her shoes. That's too literal. What is meant here is that take time to be in your ex' position. See for yourself what went wrong with the relationship, from your ex's position, and try to evaluate the things that are needed to be done in order to uncoil the connection.

To be able to see through your ex's eyes will help you a lot to get your ex back. It could change the whole situation once you realize how bad your ex felt for the things you said during your last argument. This will also help you control yourself, your emotions, and the appropriate words and actions during a conversation with your ex.

How do you make that insight work for you? By talking things over with your ex. You need to give it some time before you reach out to your ex in hopes of talking. Allow both of you a little time to remove yourself from the emotional touchiness that often follows a breakup. One month to six weeks is a good start and ask your ex to talk with you. If your ex says yes be empathetic during your talks and let your ex know that you could have handled things better. If things seem to be going well ask if the two of you could start over at square one. Don't ask to pick things up where you left off because where you left off was a bad place. Go back to the beginning and build new memories together instead of being haunted by the past.

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