Thursday, December 3, 2009

21st Century Dating Tips That Keep You Safe

By Dorthy Weatherbush

Dating has been a way to meet people, learn more about them and eventually know. We derive physical enjoyment and excitement from dating overly when we are on the quest to find our partner for the meantime or for life. However, there has been alarming violence happening on dates, especially with blind dates where you meet a person for the first. It is always best to be at your guard before taking a dive in this emotional and social activity. Here some tips that will keep you safe when dating.

The biggest concern is where your date is going to happen. Never invite a complete stranger to your home for a first date or give exact information where you live even if this person is your date. Choose locations where a lot of people are in sight, like a restaurant or an art gallery. This way you don't need to feel uneasy about the thought of something wrong might happen. If you can set up the date during daylight hours, consider doing so, this will make you comfortable and will let you enjoy the meet.

Always be aware of where the conversation is leading, as it is important on your date, it may also come to your disadvantage. Avoid giving too much personal information, like where you work and what department. Be vague in the beginning as it is acceptable, telling your date what your field of work is, it is better than giving them specific details of your company.

Don't be talked into something that you are in no way comfortable doing. Take charge of yourself and don't be deceived. That could mean turning down an offer of anything, for example, coffee at your date's place at the end of the date. You might be persuaded heavily but always make trust your instincts and make sensible judgments and decisions. There is no need to rush into anything at an early stage.

Always inform a good friend about the whereabouts of your date and especially with whom you are going out with. If doubts are in your mind, schedule a time for your friend to call and check everything is alright. Keep your mobile phone with you and on all of the times. If you live alone, make a friend wait for your return just to make you feel reassured.

Plan your travel arrangements when going on a date. It might be that your date might give you a lift to your meeting place or back to your place, until you know them better, politely refuse and take either the public transport, your own car or a friend drive you to your destination and back home.

Limit your first date to a specified time. Letting them know that you have other plans that need attending later on in the day will allow for a good "exit" point.

Do not consume more alcohol than needed, for your first date, especially if it is with someone who an hour before was a complete stranger, you don't want to make yourself vulnerable and allow them to take advantage at that stage. Too much alcohol intake could lead to things that you really don't want. It is better to know your limits and stick to them.

These rules might sound like coming from your overprotective father, but you will never know when you will get entangled with the activity of introducing yourself to a complete stranger, especially at the height of online dating. Following these and other safe dating tips you will be able to take your mind of the worry about being safe on your date and focus more on the dating itself.

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